How do I keep a younger guy interested?
For a week or so, I’ve been emailing and texting a guy I met on a dating site. He’s calling tonight to talk. We share so many interests, from music to films to values. He’s totally hot, and he thinks (m pics) I am, too. He’s 23; I’m 29.
Background: I’ve dated younger guys before. My last BF of 2 years was 7 years younger but had a drug problem that I couldn’t handle anymore.
What are some specific things I can do (beyond the obvious “have kinky sex”, “don’t be a dramarama” and “spend money on him”) to keep this exceptional young man interested for the long haul? I’m really tired of dating and as he knows, am looking for someone to get close with and stay with for a while.
Just dont’ move too fast,don’t tell or show you’re in love cause it’s too soon. And that’ll keep him around. I hope you’re not the only one spending money for the relationship,cause he’s has no money,job,car then he’ll never wantyou for you and he’ll always cheat on you. Good luck
for men only, how to react to this guy now?
I liked a colleague who likes me too. We haven’t spoken about it , but , he had shown interest through a common person.he kept on trying to talk to me, i always ignored him pretending i don’t know anything.But, i was interested, so, I ended up giving a lot of mixed signals which completely confused him.he will try to get close like try to get into meetings or come over to my floor to strike a chance to talk to me. But, i always pulled out on the last minute.
Now, we came to stage where he spoke to me rudely, and then, i wrote him a good emails ( nothing romantic ), but told him I respect him and i will never be dis-respectful to him again. he has to go for a long holiday then!!
I think he is single, now he is coming back tomorrow. I don’t know how to react to him. I always feel that people especially men, move on quickly. and he is a very attractive young man, and single too. I feel he would have found someone on holiday, I am sure he just can’t be in his own after going through all frustrations with me. I have seen him looking very rouhg and lacking self-esteem after i am continuously ignoring him. My problem,, i am family oriented and a bit shy person. I like him, but, he is english and i am indian. I haven’t dated anyone before, and i am divorced. I feel he just likes me for my good looks and probably looking for a quick fling, and because i am hard to get , so he has kept interest for the last 8 months!!
But, part of me, wants to be with him, wants to make him happy, valuable. He is so attractive , and i like him. But, i am just scared that he might be too fast for me, and he may never look for settlement and i am just another trophy for him.
I really want to end this. Now, don’t know how to react to him when he is back. Feels bad even thinking that he would have met someone else!! don’t know what to do?
To make a long story short….After he comes back from where ever he was….Asking him out to dinner or somewhere outside the workplace where you can chat would be the best thing to do but you can write him another e-mail or ask for his number and call him and ask what his intentions are….Now just dont ask that right from the beginning but strike up a convo and ask him something like….Where do you see youself in 5 years….What do you wish to accomplish in the next year or two….He can say many things….If he says he wants to find that “special someone” and settle down etc then thats a sign that he is interested or if he says He isnt really sure he wants to focus on his career etc then he isnt interested….etc….Dont rush into anything….While thinking he is an attractive guy etc you also have to think is he suitable for you and will he be open minded to your lifestyle….Like you said your indian and very family oriented….is he? Would he be willing to sacrifice and change some things in his life to match yours…You need answers to all these questions and once you have those answers then you can decide what to do….without asking you will never know and maybe be manipulated and hurt in the end…..I am a female sorry for answering but i thought this might help…hope this helped good luck!!!!
How do you keep a younger guy intrigued?
OK, I am a 28yr old woman that has been dating men between 5 and 10yrs older than me. I went on vacation for NYE and met a GREAT guy, we connected very quickly and even yes ” were intimate”. I didn’t really think anything would come of it considering I live in TX and he lives in Cali, and he is 20!!!!! Ever since I have been back home, he texts and calls every day, sweet messages or dirty ones. He is stationed in Cali for the military and has asked me to come visit, so of course being a woman in her prime, and not really satisfied with the crop here in TX, I am going for a weekend. (booked the flight today). So I guess my question is, how do I keep this going considering we actually have a lot in common and are both very interested??? Any advice at this point would help, I have been divorced for 3yrs, and think I am winding down with the dating thing……
Do you think he just wants a long distance “booty call” or do men even do the long distance booty call thing? Wouldnt they just find it in their own town if thats all they wanted?
He’s obviously interested, keep doing what you’re doing.
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